Wow, this thread is spinning out of control. Kind of off topic now so I'm locking it.
As to standard phraseology, there is no doubt about what proper phraseology is. It is well-defined. But it is also common knowledge that both pilots and controllers use short-cut phraseology, especially in busy airspace. And most of that slightly non-standard phraseology seldom compromises safety. This is also well-known, especially in the busy TRACONs. Still not relevant to this post at all. Feel free to debate it in another thread. And as to judging a pilot (or a controller) by the use of such phraseology - well, that one dimension gives a very myopic view. You need to look at quite a bit more than that to make such a snap judgment about one's competency.